As a busy mom, finding the time to create a stylish yet comfortable wardrobe can be challenging. Over the years, I've learned how to navigate these challenges and develop a strategy that saves time while still allowing me to dress in a way that brings joy and confidence. This post will share my journey, tips for building a versatile wardrobe, and the importance of choosing the right fabrics.
Finding My Style: Overcoming Frustration
In my younger years, creating a personal wardrobe was often frustrating and time-consuming. My figure didn't match standard clothing sizes, and I wasn't fond of the fashion trends of the day. I wanted to look pretty in summer outfits or dresses, but it usually ended in frustration. This led me to start sewing my own clothes in high school, although I never asked for anyone's opinion on my creations. Years later, I've developed a strategy that eliminates clothing decision dilemmas, allowing me to dress stylishly and comfortably using versatile pieces and accessories.
Thrift Store Adventures: Too Many Choices
I loved collecting cute items from thrift stores and consignment shops, but this often resulted in having too many pieces to choose from. When it was time to get ready, I would spend too much time deciding what to wear, leading to frustration. I realized I was trying to have a new look for every outing, which was impractical. I noticed that I consistently returned to certain basic items like solid color fitted tees, wide-leg pants, a long black maxi skirt, and an ivory cardigan.
Adapting to Change: The Capsule Wardrobe
Pregnancy changed my body shape, making it difficult to fit into many of my clothes. I felt guilty for being the reason we were often late to church or other events. Recognizing the problem was the first step, but I needed a solution. After a moment of prayer, I decided to go through my clothes, toss what didn't fit, and create a capsule wardrobe with just two of each essential item. This included two pairs of pants, everyday dresses, nice tops, skirts, activewear, and pajamas. I also kept a little black dress, a special occasions dress, comfortable shoes, and summer sandals.
Prioritizing Comfort: Choosing the Right Fabrics
Another important aspect of my wardrobe is the fabric type. In the past, I wore uncomfortable polyester tops that caused skin irritation. Now, I prefer natural fibers like linen, cotton, and wool, which are more breathable and healthier for my skin. I avoid polyester for everyday use and focus on clothing that feels great and promotes better hygiene.
Maintaining a Versatile Wardrobe: Staple Pieces
Although I initially kept to a strict two-of-everything rule, I've since learned the importance of knowing my inventory and ensuring things fit. I have staple pieces for different occasions, including go-to dresses for church, casual outfits for daily life, and comfortable clothes for the farm. I also have date night outfits and a few pieces for special events. I lean towards a classic look and add statement jewelry, lip gloss, and a leather tote bag for a polished finish.
Collaborating with My Husband: Finding Unique Pieces
My husband supports my love for variety and surprises me with unique items from his travels. Whether it's a handmade dress from France or a practical cotton jumper, he knows my style and appreciates quality clothing. We enjoy shopping together at consignment stores and thrift shops, finding special pieces that complement my wardrobe.
Practical Finds: Empire Cut Dresses and Men's Pants
Some of my favorite wardrobe pieces are empire cut dresses that hide my mom pooch and work for pregnancy and nursing. I also discovered that certain men's pants from REI are perfect for farm work. They're comfortable, durable, and breathable, making them ideal for various activities. My go-to shoes are Chacos black sandals, which have been a lifesaver for my plantar fasciitis.
Balancing Creativity: Sticking to What Works
As a creative person, I often have many projects on the go. To stay confident in my overall look, I stick to clothing that fits well and makes me feel beautiful and comfortable. I avoid using up all my creative energy on my wardrobe and focus on pieces that work for my body and lifestyle.
Embracing Confidence and Practicality
Creating a stylish and practical wardrobe as a busy mom is possible with the right strategy. By focusing on versatile pieces, choosing comfortable fabrics, and maintaining a manageable inventory, you can save time and enjoy dressing up. Remember, it's not about having a new look for every outing but about feeling confident and comfortable in what you wear. As Harold Bell Wright's character Mr. Howitt says, "A real lady is a lady in three ways: in her heart, mind, and body." Embrace this philosophy, and you'll find joy in your wardrobe every day.
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